Even though I am slowly building a small network of friends here, I am still keeping the numbers pretty light. The reason being is that I am a people pleaser. When anyone asks me to help them out, even when my head is screaming out no, my mouth says yes and I then practically give myself a hernia to make sure that I keep my promise. However, not everyone is so forthcoming with reciprocation. A lot of my so-called friends have been the type that only remembers my number when they need something and fake niceties when we see each other at a function. They wouldn’t even piss on me if I caught on fire but they would surely screw me over if it meant a quick buck. I can’t blame them, its human nature, I do it because I want to, and so it is their right to say no or let me down. It is still disappointing though, so I streamlined my “friends” to just a handful. The rest, I do what I can when and can and if I want to, I am always cordial, but they shouldn’t expect a call from me anytime soon.
I do and will always have time for one of my biggest critics, who happen to be my biggest “efiasworld” fans and my best friend. I get a lot of comments on here, both positive and negative (and somewhere in between) and while I am grateful for your comments, I would only take down a post if she were to tell me that I had gone too far (which she hasn’t so far). The reason being, she knows me, we have been through a lot and she is one of the reasons why I started this blog. In my blog “Keeping it Real” I referred to a comment I was given by one of my friends. She was coming from a good place when she criticised one of my blogs, but I will not tell the truth just because a few ignorant people with a complex have a problem with what I have to say.
But I digress, after reading the review on an African City, my beautiful friend literally gave me her feedback. We live out in different time zones now (5 – 6 hour difference) and so we don’t get to talk as much as I would like, but she is probably one of the only people I would forfeit sleep for.
Here is her contribution to an African City, she got in points that I missed out and which is why I have added this addendum to the review:
1. Too short! Just as you’re getting into the flow of things, that’s the end. I know they’re probably going for some “vignette” type style but for me it’s too short to be meaningful or truly enjoyable
2. The series does get top marks for the cinematography and casting, the ladies are stuning. It is a looooong way from Nollywood and I love the style and quality of the show. Trust Ghanaians to get it right 😉
3. However, I came away with the concern that they just scratch the surface of some truly interesting and serious topics…. I could have done without a whole episode centred around a dildo
4. Also no real background to the characters….What lead to where they are now
She also led me to a review by a prominent Ghanaian filmmaker Leila Djansi, if you are interested the website is http://www.ameyawdebrah.com/leila-djansi-reviews-hit-ghanaian-web-series-african-city/
She brought out some really great points and for those of you who have watched the series, you may be in agreement.
If I start with the issue on the dildo as my friend mentioned above. There is a real issue with customs in this country, yet the storyline although trying to be light hearted made it into a mockery. The writer also talks about the different styles of cinematography around the world, and well as I mentioned in my last blog it was a direct copy of Sex and the City.
The point being, we can talk about women’s liberation, and we are free to think like a man and sleep with whomever we want and how frequently we want, but we as a society are not there yet. We as women in this society are not there yet. While a few of us are managing to slip through, we have not yet cracked that elusive glass ceiling, so it would be nice to show the struggles and the successes in Ghana. It would also be a great forum for us returnees to see how life really is for us as opposed to the expats. While I am not saying I don’t go sit by the pool at Golden Tulip listening to the live band on occasion, my daddy is not a Minister and I didn’t come here equipped with a car and an endless amount of cash so I cannot.
Yes it is supposed to be entertainment, but this is a country who emulate what they see on TV and we are showing the average female moving into adulthood that, having lots of sex with powerful men is the way to get ahead, it was probably not the intention but that’s just how they are going to see it.
I could go on, and on, but if you get the time, please read the review for yourselves, it has a lot of content which you may find interesting.
It would also be interesting to know why seemingly successful women abroad came to Ghana, it’s the first question people ask a “foreigner” when they come back to settle in Ghana. I would especially like to know why my friend the Lawyer came down when she cannot find a job.
An African City has a real potential to explode into something big. They are beautiful women trying to make it in this society but the substance needs to match the style.
Oh and getting a Loan from Ghana Home Loans or any other bank is really not easy at all….